18-year-old breaks up with his girlfriend after she kept joking about him having an easy life because his parents bought him a Tesla: 'His parents basically handed him adulthood.'

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  • Am I the bad guy for breaking up with my girlfriend after she kept joking about me having an “easy life”?

    I (M18) turned 18 earlier this year, and my parents surprised me with a Tesla Model S. I know I'm really lucky, and I don't pretend otherwise. My parents are well-off, but they've always pushed me hard about school and staying responsible.
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  • I'd been dating my girlfriend (F18) for about a year. At first she was happy for me, but after a while she started making comments. Stuff like "must be nice" when I talked about stress, or "you don't really have to worry about money though." She usually said it like a joke, so I tried to brush it off.
  • The comments kept happening, especially around friends. If someone brought up the car, she'd joke that my parents. basically set me up for life. People would laugh, and I'd laugh too, but it started to feel uncomfortable and kind of embarrassing.
  • I eventually told her it bothered me. I said I knew I was privileged, but the jokes made it feel like my problems didn't count. She said I was being too sensitive and that she was "just being honest." She also said that if people see me as having it easy, I should expect comments like that.
  • The other night with friends when she said, "Yeah, his parents basically handed him adulthood." Everyone laughed again. Later, I told her it really hurt and made me feel disrespected. She got defensive and said I needed thicker skin and that it wasn't her fault life had been easier for me.
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  • After that, I realized it wasn't really about the jokes anymore. It felt like resentment, and like she didn't respect me. A few days later, I broke up with her. She said I proved her point by not being able to handle criticism. AITA?
  • misanthrope--- Whenever someone says, "I was just being honest", it's usually a way of shirking responsibility to say what they really want to say without suffering any consequences. Sometimes insecure and jealous people like to "joke" in this way. She resented you for something that's out of your control which is unfair, so I'm thinking you dodged a bullet.
  • New-Number-7810 NTA. Your ex was reducing you to your social class. She didn't see you as a human being with a complex internal world, she saw you as a "rich boy". Don't be with someone who doesn't believe your feelings matter.
  • 4n0m4nd Guy "I don't want to be with you" is pretty much always a good enough reason. If you had kids or were married or something ok, work on it. But at 18, "I don't wanna" is 100% acceptable.
  • Truebeliever-14 "She said I proved her point by not being able to handle. criticism." No, you can't handle dating a b*h.
  • AccreditedMaven Bucket of cold water over your head,OP. You are NTA, your ex is an AH But your parents have done you a serious disservice by this gift because most of the world, including the social circles you move in, will likely think what your ex was saying out loud. My kids are grown. I have familiarity with well off communities and how some parents dealt with privilege and entitlement and how those kids turned out. Not to put too fine a point on it, the gift is nouveau riche. Enjoy it. But
  • Hubbna56 That's not criticism, that's disrespectful. Breaking up with her is probably one of your wisest decisions
  • whateveratthispoint_ NTA. Sorry about the Tesla.
  • ETA Griffithead She sucks. Bringing this up all the time is super lame. But bro, get over yourself. You live an extremely privileged life. Think about all the stress you have. No one is denying it's not there. Then remove all the backups you have. Remove your car. Remove your bank accounts. Remove your parents. Their money AND their emotional support. Everything is infinitely more stressful when you have no backup. If you fail, you are truly fucked. Homeless, in debt, maybe in jail. You realisti
  • mybfisperfect A Tesla Model S? She isnt wrong you were handed everything Imao
  • Aggravating_Try6537 An 18 year old with a Tesla? Your parents need help.

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